The year 2020 is already saturated with people telling you and me what we don’t need: permission. We don’t need permission to be who we are. We don’t need permission to do what we want to do. We definitely don’t need permission to go where we want to go. The world is ours. I heard one woman on a YouTube video say, “If you’re looking for permission, here it is.”
Focusing on the need for permission or not needing permission turns us away from a more powerful effect we can have on our lives. I call this effect self-allowance or 'allowing ourselves'. Women who participated in the last cohort of Loved from the Beginning and at a retreat I facilitated last year pulled cards from a deck. On one side was written “I Allow Myself.” On the other side was “to be” in two places of being. An example would be “seen and heard.”
The beauty of this card-pulling time is that each woman pulls a card without knowing what it says on the other side. Both times, I have seen women pull cards that resonate with where they are in their lives. It’s really cool to witness. What the Holy Spirit highlighted for me the first time I led this activity is that no one needs permission. They simply need to allow themselves.
When we practice self-allowance from a place that is grounded in Oneness with the Most High, self, and others, we open ourselves to the infinite potentialities of our being. We also position ourselves to expand. At this rate, we don’t need to ask for permission or declare our unapologetic-ness. We simply are who we are without words. Verbal apologies are unnecessary without words. Imagine that.
Don’t be fooled by people giving you their permission. Be wise. Wisdom is found in the humility of your oneness with God, yourself, and others. To be one with others is to be in truth towards them. To be in truth is to see yourself and them in the light, where all truth is known. Where there is flaw and when there is fault or injury, you see yourself AND them in the grace and mercy of God. To be in truth is to extend to them what you are aware you also need, be that compassion, understanding or patience. To be One is what Jesus Christ represents. Oneness and alignment as John 15 lays out for us is the invisible place from which we most effectively produce.
My Need for Permission
I remember needing permission. It was after publishing my first book, Liberated through the Love of Christ. I was not liberated through the love of Christ when I published. I was still hurting from a fragmented picture of myself, addicted to being in pain, and tethered to other people's opinions of me. (Stay tuned for how God released me from that place in Book 2.)
People saw my greatness and accomplishment. But I didn’t see what they saw in me. I saw myself struggling to get out of where I was spiritually and psychologically. I also struggled with people’s attitudes towards me. They seemed to be a mixture of envy and admiration.
Looking back, I know that the degree to which I struggled with their attitudes was the degree to which I struggled with my attitude towards myself. I had to get grounded in who I was. The deeper rooting came not only in rejecting my need for permission but also in allowing myself to become more of who I already am in God. This has been four years in the conscious making. I do not have it down. I make Oneness and alignment my top priorities and practices.