Hey, <<First Name>>!
"They're not too cool, you're too warm."
A friend dropped this knowledge bomb after I said that I felt like I didn't fit in at a party. It was like I was floating on the edges, waiting to be welcomed in.
"You're probably right. Those people are aloof," he said. "But that's about them, not you. In fact, your openness could make people self-conscious about how closed off they truly are. So even though you deeply want to connect, they stand off. And then you feel like you don't belong."
I'm trying to reframe my mindset from someone or something being "too cool," to that environment not being able to match my warmth. I've gotta say, that change feels good. Instead of shaming myself, I acknowledge one of my gifts.
Do you ever think that something is "too cool" for you, <<First Name>>? Why? I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Anywho, onto the GIF and the fun things! Take it away, my reaction when I learn to love myself a little bit more:
Okay, okay. Two more things. Real quick!
Thank you to everyone who made it out to the last Joy List Social. Our closing circle was truly magical for me... and the next day, I actually had energy! I attribute this to having such a supportive team, and letting go of the belief that a snafu in the event reflects how good of a person I am. Hooray for being less grippy!
Mark your calendar for January 23, AKA the next one! Tickets will go live soon.
Shoutout to Ken Page, the author of Deeper Dating, for mentioning The Joy List on the Well Damn podcast. Listen here, and skip to 34:31 for the newsletter plug if you're impatient ;)
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Monday, December 17
The Dinner Party
The Dinner Party is a community of mostly 20- and 30-somethings who have each experienced the loss of a parent, sibling, partner, child, or close friend, and connect around potluck dinner parties to talk about it.
Tuesday, December 18
At this holiday get-together, gather for ritual-sharing, readings by some of their favorite NYC authors, and musical performances.
$75. All proceeds will go toward The Dinner Party’s end of year fundraising campaign. Craving company around the holidays, but honestly can’t afford it right now? Email firstname.lastname@example.org to 9 PM. La Nacional, 239 West 14th Street. Info here.
This is kind of a like an immersive theater dinner party... but with mindfulness. Good food, beautiful people, and meditation.
What do you think of the price range of this dinner party? Are you comfortable with it? I'd love to hear from you!
$75. 7 to 9 PM. Young and Able, 277 Berry St. Info here.
Ecstatic Dance is a place to let go of those thoughts in your brain that say "I'm a bad dancer. I look weird. I don't know what I'm doing." It's a place to just move. And it's wonderful.
$20. $5 off with code joyslisters. 6:30 to 11 PM. Judson Memorial Hall, 55 Washington Square S. Info here.
Sometimes, finding true inner peace requires tapping into a little rage. This means candles, darkness, herbal teas and more metal than usual.
Bowing to wisdom, struggle and the coming of better days, all class donations will go to Trans Justice Funding Project.
Donation-based. 8 to 9 PM. The Spectrum, 10-22 Wyckoff Ave. Info here.
Wednesday, December 19
Innerglow: Holiday Edition
Innerglow is always an evening filled with wonderful people, a calming meditation, some great music, and kickass conversations. Come hang!
$25, $5 off with code joylist. 6:30 to 8:40 PM. 173 Lafayette St. Info here.
Circling: Authentic Connection
Circling is a relational meditation practice that has made a huge impact on my friend, Oliver's, life. They’ll begin with an hour of paired exercises and then dive into the practice. There is no need to bring anything but yourself.
Full disclosure: circling can get pretty intense. If you're not ready for some serious vulnerability with strangers, this probably isn't the best event for you.
$10-$25 sliding scale. 6:30 to 9:30 PM. 16 Arion Place. Info here
Thursday, December 20
The Wellness Table
Wellness practitioners deserve time to take care of themselves, too. The Wellness Table offers the opportunity for practitioners to connect, discuss relevant topics, learn new skills, and exchange ideas, all in a supportive space.
$25. 12:30 to 2 PM. Coco-mat, 49 Mercer St. Info here.
Men's Support Circle and Healing Gathering
This is an evening of creating a shared sacred space for men to hear, support & empower each other. Conversations will be guided and focus on healthy emotional expression, transcending cultural gender roles, and sexual wellness, especially regarding consent.
$5. 7 to 8:30 PM. Earth Arts Center, 936 Madison St. Info here.
Friday, December 21
Sabbath Queen: Sabbath Soulstice
Live music, poetry, contemplative pause, and a community feast? Sign. Me. Up.
Free for the service, $20-$40 for dinner. 6 to 10 PM. DCTV, 87 Lafayette St. Info here.
Soundshop Choral Christmas Soirée
Join the founder of Soundshop in delicious food, some group songs, and sorrel, a traditional Jamaican drink.
$15, or free if you bring food to share. 6:30 to 9 PM, 52 Havemeyer St. Info here.
Saturday, December 22
Fullness of Feminine Ancestors Kundalini Class
I've been feeling really called to kundalini yoga recently. So come get your bend on with me and my friend, Karla! It's time to honor the new moon. *Wolf noise.*
$33. 12:30 to 2:30 PM. RA MA, 125 Stanton St. Info here.
Holiday Giving Circle
You are invited to our solstice/xmas/wintertime holiday party and giving circle! This is BCSA's third annual gathering of this kind, a special time for our community to come together in the darkest time of the year. We'll eat sweet treats, sing songs, and take part in a sacred ritual of giving.
Free. 5 to 11 PM. Brooklyn Center for Sacred Activism, 269 Empire Blvd. Info here.
Sunday, December 23
POC Yoga Flow
he(ART) house an intentional POC space illuminating and rejuvenating true connection of mind,body,soul. Focusing in on expanding the heart chakra , we will venture through breath exercises, rewiring through yoga poses, and maintain focus through meditation.
$10. 1 to 2 PM. Earth Arts Center, 936 Madison St. Info here.
Skip the Small Talk
This Joy List favorite is back! Come dive into meaningful conversations and, you know, skip the small talk.
$15. 6 to 8:30 PM. Threes Brewing, 333 Douglas St. Info here.
Women's Shamanic Community Gathering
Come close the new year with music, food, and dropping in with some amazing women.
$15 suggested donation. 2 to 6 PM. The Guided Healing, 117 Dobbin St. Info here.
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Knowledge is Power
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