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Hey, <<First Name>>!

Don't fill your calendar with the events in this newsletter.

I created The Joy List with the intention of helping people discover spaces where they can make a meaningful connection. Fingers crossed, some of these interactions turn into a new friendship.

But here's the thing that I never mention: relationships can't grow on workshops alone. While these experiences can be meaningful, one-on-one time and small group gatherings are a crucial part of creating a community.

Recently, I realized how hard it is for me to relax into a long, meandering hangout. After around two hours my hand itches to look at my phone, and my mind wanders back to my to-do list. It takes conscious effort to put those thoughts on the shelf and remember that I am allowed to spend quality time with the people I love. After all, that's the juiciest part of life.

If you struggle with prioritizing time for friendship, I challenge you to look at the people you're surrounding yourself with. Are they constantly stressed out? Do your conversations center around work? I've been there, and had to make a conscious effort to shift who I give my minutes to.

This week has been uber recharging for me, and it's because I was around folks who relax. Shoutout to Wang + the women at Chanda Lair for the breathwork and treats, Lila for reminding me that every day is an occasion to dress up, the Thanksgiving crew for the jam session, Rachel for the massage, Lightning Society for the puppy pets and deep talks, Sri for the women's circle, and everyone at last night's meditation/dinner/squat competition.

Have you been giving your friendships the time in your calendar that they deserve, <<First Name>>? I'd love to hear your thoughts. 

Anywho, onto the GIF and the fun things! Take it away, inspirational corgi:
Okay, okay. Three more things. Real quick!

1) Tickets for The Joy List Social on December 12 are live! We're already over half sold out, so make sure to buy your ticket. (And RSVP on Facebook so you can find your new friends afterwards!) If you're interested in volunteering, email Yuko at And if you want to sponsor the event, reach out to 

2) My friend Mihir is on the board of The Barrow Group Theatre Company, and is a huge advocate for the Obie Award-winning play, The Tricky Part, which begins on Thursday. The Tricky Part is a solo-show written and performed by Broadway's Martin Moran that leaves audiences asking themselves: can what we think of as damaging be the very thing that gives rise to transformation, even grace? If you're looking for a night at the theater, (said thee-ay-terr,) check this out and use code JOYLIST15 for 15% off 2 tickets!

3) Check out The Joy List calendar: For events more than a week in advance, go here. We have goodness listed all the way up to June! 

Monday, November 26

MOM Power!

MOM Power! is a place to openly discuss what it's like to be a working mom. For more info, contact the Women's Center at (718) 482-5188 or

Free. 3:30 to 4:30 PM. LaGuardia Community College, 31-10 Thomson Ave. Info here

Wisdom from the Bhakti Tradition with Radhanath Swami

Want to hear stories from a Buddhist monk, then share a free vegetarian meal together? That kinda sounds like the best Monday night.

Free. 7 to 9 PM. Bhakti Center, 25 1st Ave. Info here.

Tuesday, November 27

The Work: Healthy Masculinity Panel + Film Screening

The Work is one of the best films, let alone documentaries, that I've ever seen. In fact, I've watched it twice. Go experience its power for yourself, then have a group discussion with the film's director, Gethin, and Duncan from Thoughtworks. I love them both dearly–– I promise you're in for a great conversation! 

Free. 7 to 10 PM. Thoughtworks, 99 Madison Ave. Info here.

Zen Again Breathwork

I went to this last week, and I left feeling so much lighter and happier. The host, Mei-yin, (AKA the drag king Wang,) serves a bit of southern medicine in sound and smell and brash queer boldness from the West, plus her experience from 3 trips throughout Asia this year. You'll get therapeutic touch, music, incense, oils, sound. Go recharge your batteries!

$15-$55 donation. 7:30 to 9 PM. Chanda Lair, 16 Arion Place. Info here

*** And a surprise bonus event appears!***

Rainbow Fire on December 1

Ready for a multi-sensory journey through sound, light, scent and touch? This experience will feature a soundbath, light-bending projections, essential oils, healing touch, and a Shamanic blessing. Get ready to be seriously blissed out alongside some beautiful humans. 

$15. 7:30 to 9:30 PM. Dwana Smallwood Performing Arts Center, 857 Lexington Ave. Info here.


Wednesday, November 28

Innerglow: Meditation, Poetry & Connection

Innerglow is always an evening filled with wonderful people, a calming meditation, some great music, and kickass conversations. Come hang!

$25. $5 off with code JOYLIST. 6:30 to 8:40 PM. Energi, 815 Broadway. Info here.

Reclamation: A Kirtan With Stephanie Carlin & Her Band

Have you ever been part of a kirtan before? It's essentially a sacred, musical call and response. This one is hosted by singer Stephanie Carlin and a live band. Together, the group will sing mantras, then get up and dance!

Free. 7 to 8:30 PM. 580 Broadway. Info here.

Thursday, November 29

Peer Mentorship Circles

These peer mentoring groups provide a fun, safe space to give and receive advice, feedback, and support to help you achieve your personal and professional goals. Hooray for group accountability!

$20. 6:45 to 9 PM. Prime Produce, 424 West 54 St. Info here.

The Get Down

The Get Down is my favorite dance party in NYC. This is not "too cool" club vibes. It's "Oh my God! I'm so excited to see you! Wanna get in a circle and pound the ground while this dude plays drums?" vibes. Come get out of your head and into your body. This time around, we're starting with a partner dancing workshop at 6 PM!

$25. 6 to 10 PM. House of Yes, 2 Wyckoff Ave. Info here.

Go Naked

Woah, woah, woah. A nudist event? At a bar? That's not sexual? If you're looking to get more comfortable in your skin, this definitely seems like the place to be.

$10. 7 to 11 PM. Rock Bar, 185 Christopher St. Info here.

Friday, November 30

This Podcast is a Ritual

Remember Devin, the wizard from The Joy List Social? He's starting a podcast, and the first episode is a live group ritual. And an epic dance party. Come for one part or both, just get your beautiful booty in there. Dare I say, it's going to be a magical night. (If you're there, find me! I look like this.)

Donation-based. 7:30 PM to 4 AM. Magick City, 37 Box St. Info here.

The Brag

The Brag is a workshop that helps women own the amazing things that they've accomplished. Bragging can be difficult–– yet acknowledging your strengths is a huge way to step into your power. This time around you'll meditate and ideate, craft your professional bio, and practice your personal pitch. 

$20. 7:45 to 9:15 AM. Rise, 43 W 23rd St. Info here.

Sober Healing Party

Weekends are actually the hardest time for me to find events for The Joy List. There's plenty of concerts and shows but, as you know, that's not the type of stuff I feature. So when I found out about this–– a space for people to deeply connect and relax on a Friday night–– I was thrilled. Come check it out!

Donation-based. 8:30 to 11:30 PM. Earth Arts Healing Center, 936 Madison St. Info here.

Saturday, December 1

Undoing Whiteness and Oppression

As someone who wants to create inclusive and safe spaces, this gathering really matters to me. It's a monthly group of Zen practitioners who identify as white to explore the racial construct of whiteness, how we grasp the identity and the privilege integral to it, and how we can skillfully address the pain and suffering caused by them.

Free. 1:30 to 3:30 PM. Brooklyn Zen Center, 505 Carroll St. Info here

Math+Music Quadrivium: "The Mind"

I kinda can't believe that an event series has succeeded in making math cool-- but this crew did it! Math + Music has dancing, a presentation about the history of rhythm, beautiful nerds, and an after party. The Museum of Math has never looked better.

$20. 8 to 11 PM. Museum of Math, 11 East 26th St. Info here.

Sunday, December 2

POC Yoga Flow

Come bend into some yoga, breathe some deep breaths, and get your communal healing on.

$10. 1 to 2 PM. Earth Arts Center, 936 Madison St. Info here.

Thank You For Being You - Day Party!

Want to dance your face off in the middle of the day, for zero dollars? With smiley, positive people? I've got your back.

Free. 3:30 to 10 PM. The DL, 95 Delancey St. Info here


Horizontal with Lila: This podcast is one of the few that I listen to. Lila is masterful at creating a space for open and vulnerable conversation. You can hear how comfortable her guests are in their voice–– which partially has to do with the fact that they're lying down on a bed while wearing robes. I recommend this delicious episode with a polyamorous woman, as well as this episode about touch hunger. If you love it, support the project on Patreon!

Looking for a space to host your next meeting? Code JOYLIST gets you 50% off at Meetinplace in the Financial District! I recently met their team, and they are SO kind it is ridiculous. If you're looking for a gorgeous room that you can book by the hour, support these folks! (Plus, with the code you can get your own private room for $30. That's the best deal you're gonna find in NYC!)

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That's it for for this week, <<First Name>>!  Tell a friend who's new to NYC to subscribe, like the Facebook page for even more events, and follow us on Instagram.

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