Hey, <<First Name>>!
I ate M&Ms in public last week. It was kind of a big deal.
Some background: I've had disordered eating habits since I was 16. So, for my birthday, I gifted myself six months of sessions with an intuitive eating specialist. She's part therapist, part nutritionist, fully awesome.
With her help, I realized that I labeled certain foods as good, and certain foods as bad. In other words, if I ate a cupcake, then I felt like a bad person. And since I'd "messed up," I'd say fuck it and end up eating everything. No good.
One of the first steps to being an intuitive eater is normalizing all foods, and making them accessible in my life. So two weeks ago, I took a leap of faith and bought chocolate, ice cream, and cake. And brought them into my house. A voice in my head said, "These people think you're disgusting for buying this food. Plus, you can't trust yourself around this. You have no self-control."
Of course, that voice is an asshole. But it's there. Strong.
The hardest part of my intuitive eating process is that, for a while, I am going to town on sugar. And that's normal. Because as someone with a diabetic mom, and two parents with disordered eating habits, my brain associates sugar with scarcity, danger and shame. (In other words, it still thinks that my mom is going to sneak under my bed and steal my Halloween candy.)
For now, I'm training my body to trust that I can have all foods in abundance. I don't need to eat it all, because it will be there whenever I want. And I'm training my brain to know that all food is okay, and free of judgement. As always, I'm a work in progress.
For now, I'm proud of myself for eating those M&Ms.
One last thing: I am not looking for advice on my eating habits. I know people have lots of feelings about their diet. I am not open to suggestions as this time.
Have any weirdness with food yourself, <<First Name>>? You're not alone. And if you're looking for some reading, I recommend Intuitive Eating and The Intuitive Eating Workbook. If you prefer listening, I recommend the Food Psych podcast.
I send you a virtual hug. You are enough, you lovable ball of wonder.
And now, are you ready for the GIF and the fun things? Take it away, Will:
Monday, January 28
Stretching and Playing in Public
Want to get limber while also getting out of your comfort zone? Try stretching and playing some games with a large group in the middle of The Oculus! Not surprisingly, the folks who lead this are absolute gems.
Free. 5:30 to 7:30 PM. The Oculus, World Trade Center. Info here.
Cultivating Presence in the Smartphone Age
Learn how to put down your phone and connect more deeply with both yourself and others. (Fun fact: The Joy List is mentioned in the presentation!)
Free. 7 to 9 PM. The Assemblage, 114 East 25th St. Info here.
Tuesday, January 29
Ecstatic Dance is a place to let go of those thoughts in your brain that say "I'm a bad dancer. I look weird. I don't know what I'm doing." It's a place to just move. And it's wonderful.
$25. $5 off with code joyslisters. 6:30 to 11 PM. Judson Memorial Hall, 55 Washington Square S. Info here.
NYC Co-working Network Dinner
Want to get dinner with a bunch of wonderful freelancers, and have discussions that have absolutely nothing to do with work? Then RSVP for this! The host, Amela, is one of the loveliest women in NYC.
$35. 7 to 9:30 PM. Address given at purchase. Info here.
Wednesday, January 30
A few times in my life, I have convinced myself to wake up early for Daybreaker. And every time, it has been absolutely worth it. There's nothing better than walking around at 9 AM, a huge grin on your face, knowing that you were dancing on top of a bar with a guy who's dressed like a bear..... two hours ago. (Okay, that's pretty specific to me. But you get the point.)
$25. 7 to 9 AM. Highline Ballroom, 431 West 16th St. Info here.
Innerglow is always an evening filled with wonderful people, a calming meditation, some great music, and kickass conversations. Come hang!
$25. $5 off with code JOYLIST. 6:30 to 8:40 PM. 173 Lafayette St. Info here.
Thursday, January 31
Disco Yoga + Wellness
A yoga class, cocktails, and the chance to chat with some great people? Yes, please.
$15-$20. 6:30 to 9:30 PM. Bogart House, 230 Bogart St. Info here.
I love a good drum circle. Get into it.
$15-$20 suggested donation. 7:30 to 9 PM. Golden Drum, 97 Green St. Info here.
Friday, February 1
Hacienda Social Pool Party
Wish you could escape NYC and jump into a pool party filled with gorgeous people who are down to play sexy connection games? Welp, now you can!
$40. 8 PM to 1 AM. Room Mate Grace Hotel, 125 W 54th. Info here.
NYC Sisters Swamp Together
You've probably heard me talk about swamping. It's the practice of women getting together to dance out their emotions. We scream. We hit things. We cry. And we do it together.
This event is for femme folks only. Before the swamp, read up on the practice here and check out the book that inspired it here.
$5. 5 to 7 PM. Ev and Co, 64 East 4th St. Info here.
Saturday, February 2
Group singing has become pretty removed from our culture, and that makes me sad. Come gather with a bunch of new friends, learn a little bit about singing, and then get your song on! I haven't been, but I've heard rave reviews from friends.
Free. 1:45 to 3:30 PM. House of Yes, 2 Wyckoff Ave. Info here.
A Night of Philosophy and Ideas
This event makes my heart want to explode. It's a 12-hour exchange of ideas at the Brooklyn Library. In other words, hundreds of people pack a library because they're so PUMPED to learn from each other. How glorious is that?!
Free. 7 PM to 7 AM. Brooklyn Public Library, 10 Grand Army Plaza. Info here.
Sunday, February 3
Meaningful Conversations: Finding Spiritual Purpose in Any Job
Do you feel like your job is fulfilling your purpose? Are some types of work just inherently more meaningful and “spiritual” than others? Or is it possible to find meaning and purpose no matter what you do? Gather at this week's Meaningful Conversations series to discuss the answers.
Free. 6:30 to 8:30 PM. Bahai Center, 53 East 11th St. Info here.
5Rhythms: Sweat Your Prayers
5Rhythms is spiritual. It's legitimately one of the safest, most welcoming environments I've been lucky enough to experience in NYC. People dance with their kids, and people dance with their walkers. Check it out!
$20 cash. 11 AM to 1 PM. Joffrey Ballet School, 434 6th Ave. Info here.
Tom Kubik: A lot of you loved my new headshots. Tom did those! He is a commercial photographer specializing in lifestyle and portraiture for advertising and branding. He's looking to connect with agency folks (producers, art buyers, art directors, creative directors), photo editors, founders, magazines, business owners, entrepreneurs, VCs, designers, and anyone else who might hire advertising and editorial photographers. Oh, and he's worked with fancy people like Apple, Samsung, and Airbnb. Learn more about him here.
Intuitive eating Instagram accounts: If you're looking for more inspiration to fight against diet culture, check out Alissa Rumsey, Christy Harrison, The Body Love Society, and Emily Fonnesbeck.
Bento boxes: Okay, really sticking with the topic of food here. Have you seen those Youtube videos where moms show the adorable bento box lunches that they pack for their kids? Well, I just bought myself one, and plan on making these meals for myself this week. I'm even gonna write myself a note :)
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