Hey, <<First Name>>!
I recently stumbled upon a passage in Feminine Genius, a book by Liyana Silver, that really resonated with me:
"For many of us, what are perfectionism and superwoman-itis if not attempts to reach elevated states through extreme self-denial, self-mortification, and pleasure avoidance?"
Woof. As someone who is super achievement-oriented, that sentence ignited some self-reflection. Because right now, I struggle with a desire to "grind" through my tasks, and base my self-worth off of how much I can accomplish.
As part of this achievement-oriented mentality, I have become wildly out of touch my with my body and my desires. It is easy, and far more comfortable, to stay in my brain. If I keep adding things to my to-do list, I never have to stop and check in with my body. I can be a walking head forever!
Now, I'm trying to listen to my desires more regularly–– what I want to eat, what I crave sexually, where I wants to cowork for the day. I know that my intuition is in there. I just need to dust her off and pick her back up. Baby's been left in the corner for too long.
Anywho, time for what you're here for... the GIF and the fun things! Take it away, kid president:
Okay, okay. Three more things. Real quick!
1) Know any brands that might want to partner with The Joy List? I'm starting to collaborate with a partnerships coach, and we're creating some freakin' awesome packages. So if you know a company that could benefit from some custom calendars for their newly relocated employees, a mixer for their new hires, or promotion in our newsletter and events, reach out!
2) Do you have a women's group? I've been asking around about a regular women's group for a whiiiiile, and weirdly can't find anything. I don't have the bandwidth to start something myself, but I'd love to join one. If you have any info, hit 'reply.' I'd also love to promote your group to the readers!
3) Check out The Joy List calendar: For events more than a week in advance, go here. We have goodness listed all the way up to June!
Monday, November 12
A/D/O Seminar: On Religion and Spiritual Fiction
As some of y'all know, I'm writing a book about modern spaces that foster a sense of belonging. So when I heard that a workshop was being led by someone who created a "Prayground," and a discussion would be happening about sacred spaces and storytelling, I knew some of you beautiful nerds would be as into it as I am. If you go, send me your notes! I'm not able to make it.
$10. 6:30 to 8:30 PM. A/D/O, 29 Norman Ave. Info here.
Community Meditation Monday
In a world where "mindful" events can be $30 and up, I love supporting communities that have free offerings. That's why I'm including the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care, which has a meditation and dharma talk–– AKA spiritual teaching–– every Monday night.
Free. 6 to 7:15 PM. New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care, 119 West 23rd St. Info here.
Tuesday, November 13
Well, that just took a dark turn. But stay with me here. We're all going to die, right? (Sorry: spoiler alert.) We might as well talk about it and get that shit out in the open! I love this idea.
Free. 6:30 to 8 PM. Green-Wood Cemetery. Info here.
NYC Salon: Meal Kits Against Hunger
NYC Salon is like seeing a TED talk, but with your friends. Come learn from Alex Godin, a cool dude who created a company with the mission to reduce hunger in America. Then break into small groups and have a discussion based around what you learned. It's gloriously nerd-tastic.
Free. 7:30 to 10:30 PM. Location TBD. Info here.
Wednesday, November 14
Let's talk, period
There are many chances when you can turn to a woman and say, "Hey, this is what's going on with my period. Do you get that? Am I weird?" Welp, this is your chance! Gather in a safe space, guided by experts in women's health, to discuss hormone irregularities, what a healthy cycle looks like, and how to deal with PMS.
$10. All proceeds donated to Periods.org. 6:30 to 8:30 PM. Flatiron School, 11 Broadway. Info here.
Six Degrees Society
I recently met the founder of Six Degrees Society, and I couldn't believe that we'd never chatted before. We're kinda mission soulmates. Six Degrees Society is a curated space for women to network, support each other, and form genuine connections. You don't need to worry about who you'll chat with–– each guest gets 2 curated, 15-minute connections. (You even get to creep on their bio beforehand!) This time around, the group will be participating in a discussion about love, compassion, and connection. My heart just exploded.
$30. 7 to 9 PM. SassClass, 41 West 36th St. Apply to join here. Event info here.
Burners Without Borders: Bushwick Edition
Burners Without Borders (BWB) supports creative, collaborative, community-based social impact projects across the world. Join them in Bushwick for an evening of mingling, an intro to the ways you can work with BWB, and a facilitated ideation experience to brainstorm what kind of work you're interested in doing together!
Free. 7 to 9 PM. The Chanda Lair, Arion Place and Broadway. Info here. (Info about the Manhattan edition on the 15th here.)
Thursday, November 15
The Get Down
The Get Down is my favorite dance party in NYC. This is not "too cool" club vibes. It's "Oh my God! I'm so excited to see you! Wanna get in a circle and pound the ground while this dude plays drums?" vibes. Come get out of your head and into your body.
$25. 6:30 to 10 PM. Cielo, 18 Little West 12th St. Info here.
Well, this sounds bonkers amazing. A tea ceremony to prepare the "space activation?" A spa ship? A sound bath? This is so Brooklyn, and I'm here for all of its gloriousness.
$17.12. 7:30 PM to midnight. Artifications Station, 63 North 3rd. Info here.
Friday, November 16
The Big Quiet
I am stoked to be a community partner for The Big Quiet, a 1500 person mass meditation at town hall. How cool is that?! Tickets sold out for the last one, so make sure to grab yours soon. These experiences are always magical. If you see me, say hi! I look like this.
$25+. 7:30 to 10 PM. Town Hall, 123 West 43rd St. Info here.
5Rhythms: Night Waves
5Rhythms has become part of my spiritual practice. It's legitimately one of the safest, most welcoming dance environments I've been lucky enough to experience in NYC. If you're interested, there's also an earlier Dancing with Dementia class!
$20 cash. 7:30 to 9:30 PM. Joffrey Ballet School, 434 6th Ave. Info here.
Saturday, November 17
Boundaries and Unfolding Desires
Well, this fits into the intro for the week nicely! This workshop will teach you how to listen to your body, communicate your boundaries and desires, and feel a greater sense of intimacy with both yourself and others. If I wasn't going to the Burlesquerade, I'd be there in a heartbeat!
$60 with code 2FRIENDS. 2 to 5:30 PM. The Chanda Lair, Arion Place. Info here.
People of Color Representation Roundtable
This space exists as a one-of-a-kind experiment where artists can share work with and get feedback from a group that is 100% people of color. Part writers circle, part discussion forum and part low-key performance salon, the POC Roundtable offer artists of color the rare experience of sharing work at any point in the development process with an all-POC audience in a safe space.
Free. 1 to 5 PM. Musical Theatre Factory, 440 Lafayette St. Info here.
Sunday, November 18
I. Love. This. Dinner. It's good people. Conversation where everyone actually listens to each other. Everyone serves everyone else. It's lovely. And I can vouch that the hosts–– Jenn and Duncan–– are the finest hosts in the land. Plus, I'll be there!
$10 to $25 sliding scale. 7:30 to 10 PM. Address given at purchase. Info here.
Undoing Patriarchy and Unveiling the Sacred Masculine
Y'all have been loving the programming around masculinity, so I'm keepin' it coming! This is a monthly group of male-identifying folks who gather to discuss the concept of, you guessed it, the sacred masculine. A variety of practices will be incorporated, including meditation, group dialogue, storytelling, and journaling.
Donation-based. 2 to 4:30 PM. Brooklyn Zen Center, 505 Carroll St. Info here.
Looking for a space to host your next meeting? Code JOYLIST gets you 50% off at Meetinplace in the Financial District! I recently met their team, and they are SO kind it is ridiculous. If you're looking for a gorgeous room that you can book by the hour, support these folks! (Plus, with the code you can get your own private room for $30. That's the best deal you're gonna find in NYC!)
Anything from The School of Life: I am obsessed with their Youtube channel. Check out this video called "The Best Chat Up Lines," and this one called "What is Your Attachment Style?"
The People's Forum Cafe is open! If you find yourself in midtown–– I'm sorry–– and you're looking for an ethically-sourced meal, visit this spot. They cook fresh, affordable food on a daily basis. Plus, their goal is to be a community hub to break bread and have conversation. Field trip?
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