Set your goals, then destroy them!
2019, already 11 days in and we're back on a roll in full force!
A new cycle has begun and for many people an opportunity to set a marker; start something new, intensify ongoing things, make changes, decisions, get rid of stuff, you name it.
The biggest and most underrated cliche of all times? You can make a start or a change every day, every moment of your life.
Yes, that may very well be the mother of all cliches, but so true AND hardly ever dealt with in a proper and practical manner. (That's why many new year's resolutions fade away without getting a fair chance!)
The key to change and maintaining the structure that comes with it or is needed, is first to distinguish the goals from the purposes.
So you want to lose or gain weight. Great goal! But why? What's the purpose, your main reasons to set such a goal?
You want to learn something new, something you think is awesome. Great, the brain is able to learn and adapt your entire life. Great! But why? What do you want to get out of it?
Second, behavorial changes need to be practical, doable and implemented in your already full or chaotic daily schedule. Change or adjustments in little incremental steps is how strong habits are built, that will last. Start from where you are and go from there.
You want to pick up roller skating? Great! But why? 3 times a week? Give yourself time and start with once a week and grow form there. In between, read about it, watch other people doing it, (listen to the music YOU associate with it) and let the feeling grow on you.
Have you failed in the past, or you think you just don't have what it takes? Then just setting a goal, with a thin motivational punchline won't pull YOU through.
Likely, there are some firmly rooted beliefs and values about yourself and your perception of the world towards and around you, that are obstructing your ways to get things done.
Changing your mindset will impact your motivation, dedication and eventually your behavior all together.
Are you planning to move from living area or starting a new job within a few weeks? That's one heck of a change baby!
Leave everything else around it, exactly as they are. Do your things around your new situation as you always do and adapt from there.
People thrive best when they are super comfortable, when they are totally on top of their game. That's when awesome stuff happens and is experienced. And when awesome stuff totally hits you by surprise, it only means you were ready all along, anticipating for the right moment!
One of the most valuable things ever extracted from many years of roller skating and sharing this beautiful art: You need to except slow progress over a very long period of time. All that time, you need to do the effort and you need to be consistent about it.
Once you have accepted that, something special happens:
From the true moment of acceptance, you start to grow and change super fast. The brain settles down and starts adapting very effectively, making you do things you thought were out of your reach; making you think things you never thought of. Your belief system is subjective to change and your perception in general adapts accordingly. You will feel and think awesome more frequently and don't be suprised when that is accompanied by the need to share that experience.
All of the above is not restricted to roller skating. When you dedicate yourself to your passion - whatever that may be - then this is what transpires.
Set your goals and crush them totally. When you need a little help with that or a motivational shout out, just reach out.
Salute to an awesome and blessed 2019!