But, why?

⛅ Morning, friends!

As my newsletters often do, this one starts off with a childhood reflection. This time, it's one of the first memories I have of getting my school report card. It was there that amid the check-marks and letters scribbled from my teacher, a few words were written that still ring true today: “Loves to ask questions.”
My parents were least surprised by this feedback, a feature of my personality that frequently tested their patience. I was dubious, but if we'd had a crystal-ball to reveal that one day part of my adult job would be asking millions of people questions on "the Internet"…well, I’d probably have had a few follow-ups.
These days, I work with kindred spirits who prefer to live in the big questions, rather than be satisfied by old answers. Those questions lead them to piles of data, into the wilderness of the Okavango, to other planets, beyond, etc. On the yoga mat, I find myself coming back to the same sort of wonder. One of my go-to cues when teaching is to encourage students to be curious about what their own practice might reveal that particular day. It frees you to frame a thought or a feeling as a question; it spaces you from both self-criticism as well as complacency. It turns, “I can’t do this pose like the guy next to me,” into: “How would it feel to ground my palms onto this block?”
As humans, we process a crazy amount of data at all times. Being able to quickly come to an answer is all about survival. But if you’re reading this, chances are you have the luxury of not living in constant pure survival mode. You can lounge about in the questions. That might be during your meditation, at yoga, while walking to and from work, wherever.
As it turns out, hearing a question can actually be quite powerful, and even pleasurable to our brains. An open-ended question that has no precise right or wrong alters our body chemistry, lighting up neural activity in the rewards centers of our brains. It also focuses our minds, because while we contemplate a question we can’t think about anything else.
Sometimes, I find myself caught in a broken record mental loop. I’m embarrassed about a thing I said and keep running the words over and over in my mind, or I feel disrespected by someone and keep telling myself how mad I am at them. After a time, this is really only hurting me. Asking a question can help break that cycle through imagination. It gives my mind another option to ask, “How might it look if next time this happens, I spoke up?” Or even, “What are my hands doing when I think about this story? How does my jaw feel? Why is my heart rate speeding up?” In these cases, arriving at an answer isn’t the point.
There is so much more you can do with a question, sensation-wise, possibility-wise. So be like a five-year-old, take yourself down a rabbit-hole of why’s and how’s without worrying about the answers. Your brain loves a good question. And no one has to know about it but you.


❓Try this at home 

The next time you get caught in one of those annoying cycles where you're beating yourself over the head with something that happened, try to interrupt that cycle with a question. Set yourself a timer for 3 minutes. Start with something basic like, how does my stomach feel thinking about this situation? What are my hands doing? If you're feeling sad or lonely or misunderstood, what's the quality of that sadness or loneliness or frustration? Don't worry about the answers, in fact, just ignore them.

Reply back and let me know how it goes!!

Quote of the week 💬

“Research shows that we can’t multitask. We are biologically incapable of processing attention-rich inputs simultaneously."
~ David Hoffeld, Fast Company (Want To Know What Your Brain Does When It Hears A Question?)

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Keep it curious, friends. This newsletter thrives on forwards! Send to a fellow question-asker.

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