As we celebrate Thanksgiving this month, I reflect on all the opportunities that life's challenges offer me in my own personal journey. I spend time with my clients helping them uncover insights they can learn from their problems that will make life better for them - and I am grateful for the difficulties that come up in my personal life that allow me to do the same.
The past while I have been learning quite a bit about navigating our mental health system with a close family member. It has been challenging and at times overwhelming. So I took time:
(1) to reflect and observe my own feelings and reactions (noticing the sensations in my body, the self-talk, the past experiences that the situation reminds me of
(2) to take myself out of fight/flight/freeze by releasing any negative emotions and feelings with the help of meditation, journaling, meridian tapping, questioning my self talk
(3) to get a different perspective on the situation (past, present and future)
These three steps allowed me to find ways to deal more effectively with the situation, to help my family member in a positive way and to navigate a smooth and peaceful way through the situation.
For example, at one point I was feeling helpless in face of a system that worked with different beliefs (at times conflicted with my own) on how to best help my family member. I felt this when dealing with the nurses, social worker, doctors, hospital staff (probably anyone in the medical field!).
But by observing my own feelings and reactions and then letting go of the meaning I was giving the situation, I realized that I could choose to deal with each individual as a person, instead of seeing them as part of a system. In fact, I realized that the "system" was something that I created - it was my perception of what the medical system was. I also could see that everyone was doing what they felt was best based on their own beliefs, experiences and stresses.
There were many other insights during this experience and I am grateful for what could seem from the outside to be a "negative experience". We can overcome our negative experiences in life - this is how we grow and expand. I am immensely grateful for all the books, tools and techniques, information and knowledge that is being shared in our world today that help us to find new meaning in what is going on in our lives.
"What is behind your eyes is more powerful that what is in front of them" Gary Zukav
The Five Minute Miracle.
Tara Springett (2010)
This little book I purchased on Amazon recently gives a short, easy way to practice connecting to your higher consciousness in meditation. Based on Tibetan Buddhist principals, Tara Springett gives some beautiful and simple techniques to used during your meditations. I love the breathing technique of visualizing being on a sled and gently sliding down a hill as you are breathing out...and slowly coming to a stop. many little nuggets of gold in this book!
"Dealing with Stress"
Support & Coaching Drop in Sessions with Lisa Kopil
During these monthly drop-in sessions we will address how stress affects us and different techniques that can be used to let go of stress, change our thinking/beliefs about what is causing the stress and bring more clarity, grounding and health into our daily lives.
Monthly drop in sessions will be held at the Carp Ridge Wellness Center (Leaning Center Building) every 2nd Thursday of the month (10:30 to 11:30am) and every last Wed of the month (7:00 to 8:00pm).
Location: Carp Ridge Ecowellness Center(Main clinic 4596 Carp Road, Carp, ON) Fee:By Donation Please contact me for more information or to let me know if you plan on coming out.
This month's drop in sessions will be: Thursday morning October 11th 2018 10:30 to11:30am
Wednesday evening October 31st 2018 7:00 to 8:00pm
Thursday morning Nov 8th 2018 10:30 to 11:30am
Introduction to Meridian Tapping
During this free 30 minute session to tapping, you will be introduced to the basic concepts and how it can work for you.
Session in person or by Skype. Please send me a message to schedule an appointment - contact.