I have been thinking about loss in the last week. During our weekly meditation session, I had read a passage from Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth” that talks about loss being what we attach ourselves to. He mentioned the story of a dying woman who he was working with who was upset at loosing a valuable family ring - she thought it was stolen by the woman who was taking care of her. Elkhart asked her to reflect on the question: “Has who you are been diminished by the loss”?
I reflected on this question during our meditation. I first thought of a situation a few years ago where I lost a sum of money buying a used tablet. I could still feel the loss of that money - I could feel it in my body and I asked myself - what is the thought or belief behind this physical feeling? And the belief popped up - I was stupid, not careful enough. Have I been diminished by this loss? No... but the belief about myself, the thoughts seem to diminish me. As I realized it wasn’t the loss of money that diminished me, I felt a sense of who I am rise within and I felt at peace with the loss.
So I thought of a second situation. A close family relative that I had know my whole life made the decision a number of years ago to not see us again. I don’t know the reasons behind this decision and I had made some peace with it. But could still felt the sting of the loss of that close relationship. Again, I found the physical place in my body where I could feel it and asked myself what is the belief/thought that is there? “Is who I am been diminished by this loss?” Again I felt the sense of me, complete and at peace as I realized it was the beliefs and thoughts that diminished my sense of self.
I was on a roll - so I continued with a third situation: the loss of the body I had 10 years ago. Where did I feel this loss physically as I thought about it? What thoughts and beliefs came with it? Is who I am been diminished by this loss?
This exercise was very powerful to me - as I realize that who I am can never be diminished by any external loss but my sense of self is felt by the thoughts and meanings that I give to the situations and circumstances around me - and that is something that I can bring light to, learn about and change the way I perceive them.
Support & Coaching Drop in Sessions with Lisa Kopil
During these monthly drop-in sessions we will address how stress affects us and different techniques that can be used to let go of stress, change our thinking/beliefs about what is causing the stress and bring more clarity, grounding and health into our daily lives. Come out to share, connect, discuss and get a new perspective or new ideas on how to deal with the stress in your life.
Monthly drop in sessions will be held at the Carp Ridge Wellness Center every 2nd Thursday of the month (9:30am to 10:30am) and every last Wed of the month (7:00 to 8:00pm).
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Weekly Meditation, Talk and Tea
Thursday 8:00 am – 9:00 am
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4596 Carp Road, Carp, ON
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Introduction to Meridian Tapping
During this free 30 minute session to tapping, you will be introduced to the basic concepts and how it can work for you.
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